Jan 25

12 Things Happy People Do Differently

By Jacob Sokol
“Studies conducted by positivity psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky point to 12 things happy people do differently to increase their levels of happiness. These are things that we can start doing today to feel the effects of more happiness in our lives. Check out her book The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want
1. Express Gratitude – When you appreciate what you have, what you have appreciates in value. Being grateful for the goodness that is already evident in your life will bring you a deeper sense of happiness. If you aren’t thankful for what you already have you will not feel happy.
2. Cultivate optimism – Winners have the ability to manufacture their own optimism. No matter what the situation, the successful diva is the chick who will always find a way to put an optimistic spin on it. Failure is an opportunity to grow and learn a new lesson from life. People who think optimistically tend to see the world as a place packed with endless opportunities, especially in trying times.
3. Avoid over-thinking and social comparison – Comparing yourself to someone else can be poisonous. If we’re somehow better than the person that we’re comparing ourselves to, it gives us an unhealthy sense of superiority. Our ego inflates and our inner Kanye West comes out! If we’re worse than the person that we’re comparing ourselves to, we usually discredit the hard work that we’ve done and dismiss all the progress that we’ve made. What I’ve found is that the majority of the time is type of social comparison doesn’t stem from a healthy place. If you feel called to compare yourself to something, compare yourself to an earlier version of yourself.
4. Practice acts of kindness – Performing an act of kindness releases serotonin in your brain. (Serotonin is a substance that has tremendous health benefits, including making us feel more blissful). Selflessly helping someone is a super powerful way to feel good inside. What’s even cooler about this kindness kick is that not only will you feel better, but so will people watching the act of kindness. Bystanders will be blessed with a release of serotonin just by watching what’s going on. A side note is that the job of most anti-depressants is to release more serotonin. Move over Pfizer, kindness is kicking ass and taking names.
5. Nurture social relationships – The happiest people on the planet are the ones who have deep, meaningful relationships. Studies show that people’s mortality rates are doubled when they’re lonely.
6. Develop strategies for coping – How you respond to the ‘craptastic’ moments is what shapes your character. Sometimes crap happens. It can be hard to come u with creative solutions in the moment when manure is making its way up toward the fan. It helps to have healthy strategies for coping pre-rehearsed. Copies strategies here: Benzo.Support.
7. Learn to Forgive – harboring feelings of hatred is horrible for your well-being. The mind doesn’t know the difference between past and present emotion. Those negative emotions are eating away at your immune system.
8. Increase flow experiences – Flow is a state in which it feels like time stands still. It’s when you’re so focused on what you’re doing that you become one with the task.
9. Savor life’s joys – Deep happiness cannot exist without slowing down to enjoy the joy.
10. Commit to your goals – Being wholeheartedly dedicated to doing something comes fully equipped with an ineffable force.
11. Practice spirituality – When we practice spirituality or religion, we recognize that life is bigger than us. It enables us to connect to the source of all creation and embrace a connectedness with everything that exists. Some of the most accomplished people I know feel that they’re here doing work they’re “called to do”.
12. Take care of your body – Taking care of your body is crucial to being the happiest person you can be.”
Check out Jacob Sokol’s Uncommon Guide to Finding, Living and Rocking Your Life’s Purpose

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